Keep things to yourself!

Be Tight lipped!

You are at this movie, watching it with your friend who has already watched it. You are completely engrossed in the movie and want no distractions as the villain has captured the hero's brother. The hero arrives and starts fighting with the villain's goons, you are about to know what's gonna happen to the brother when your friend says, ' Let's get outta here, he's gonna kill his brother anyways!'. He just ruined the entire suspense which makes you feel that the entire 2hrs 49mins was a waste of time, ( don't forget the ticket price). Well, if he would have revealed the ending, you probably wouldn't even go watch the movie.

All I'm trying to say is that, comparing the movie's example with real life, letting out your secrets to other people might just ruin your relationship with them, or worse. It could be used as a tool to defame you, or destroy your reputation. See no connection with the example and my explanation right? So, here's the connection,

If your friend would've revealed the climax of the film, which in a way was a secret to you, you wouldn't even invest on the movie. That's just the same when you reveal your secrets. Don't reveal all your secrets. It's up to you to decide what to share and what not to. That's called being selectively secretive.

 Over time I have learnt that there is a huge difference between trusting people and allowing yourself to be too vulnerable. Sometimes it is nice and necessary to feel a tab bit vulnerable in relationships, just for your partner's sake, but I don't believe anyone should know EVERYTHING about you. As long as you are self-aware, it is totally fine to keep some of your strengths and weaknesses a secret. 

Now, there may be tons of people who would start defending their relationships,  saying that ," There should be no secrets between a couple!", " Our lives are open books!", yada yada yada!. Hold it!! Let me tell you something.

 ' A healthy relationship, of any kind, doesn't require telling someone every single detail about yourself.'

You must think of yourself as a strong castle or fort. That is how you must view your, mind and spirit. You must be fully aware of all the entrances, exits, secret passageways to your fort, i.e., your strengths, weaknesses, fears,etc. Feel free to invite people to your forts for dinners and parties you have, bbut keep in mind that the more people you tell about your fort, the more information you reveal about the passageways, the weaker your fort becomes and it is damn easy for people to attack your fort and conquer your life. That's totally unacceptable! 

Finally, I would like to say that, don't trick yourself into believing that you are obligated to share all your information with everyone. Remember, that it is up to you to decide what to reveal, when to reveal and whom to reveal! This is a major learning which would help you conquer your life and become an Amitastic person!

So, I'll meet you in the next post!

BYE!!!